The Rompot (romantic potential for those who've forgotten) is no more. He has some things going in his life and didn't want to start something until he clears them up. So, we're going to try the friend thing.
The news saddened me at first, but then I felt relief. Not because I don't like him – he's super sexy and way nice – but because I wasn't sure I should get into a relationship right now. I was willing to see where this went (see sexy and nice comment above), but fortunately (?) for both of us, we were in a "right guy, wrong time" situation. I say fortunately because no one really got hurt by the friends-only decision.
And why don't I want a relationship right now?
- I don't know where I want to end up.
- I want to make that decision for me, not because of someone else.
- I'm stretching my comfort zone around loneliness and I haven't found its limit yet.
Of course none of these reasons stops me from being open to romance entering my life. But when that happens, I'll know I'm making a conscious choice to be with him (whoever he is) and not just letting something happen without thought.
Someday Lessons:
- The right thing can come at the wrong time. Be prepared to let it go.
- Just because you are on one path, don't put blinders on and block the view of other avenues.